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What is Psychological center
Psychological center is your best resource for information on dating, romance and relationships.
The practising psychologists answer your questions, write articles about the theme that are interested to many. There are separate blocks of articles and
answers that are seen to women and men.
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Can I ask my question to the psychologist?
Yes, sure we welcome everyone to ask their questions about dating, romance and relationship.
Just go to psychology center and in the bottom of the page there is a form where you can write your question.
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Why choose your agency and not another?
Nothing against other people and other agencies but we can only control ourselves. We think that the reason to choose us is because we always ask
ourselves how can we be better and how we can we be different. There are many reasons but here a few.
We work with many women who we know personally, photographed personally and who are active and sincere about meeting and marrying you.
We work with you intimately making sure you are never alone in the process by being your advisor and friend.
We are always here for you, from the registration and first letter to Visa, Vows and happily ever after.
We are brutally honest. Because we care about both you and the girls we will always protect both your interests. Want to wear rose-colored glasses? Then
choose someone else. Want the truth in order to build a lasting, true and loving relationship then we know we can help.
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How do I know if the members on this site are not fake?
There is nothing better than to make personal contact and see.
WE suggest to communicate with another member, know each other a bit better and talk on the phone. All premium member can exchange telephones, and
we encourage our members making a telephone calls. According to our practice nothing helps to make personal contact and understand each other better.
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Are they looking for rich husbands?
Surely, that in Russian like in other
countries there are women who are trying to “sell themselves as expensive as possible”.
But they do not form the main contingent of the clients of international marriage agencies.
In spite of low level of life in Russia, there are rich people not less than in the West.
And it is they who are the main “object of chase” for this women. The most part of women
who are looking for a husband abroad, want normal, stable and reliable family relationship,
relationship that many Russian men do not want. Of course, there are certain material criteria.
A woman is ready to move to another country and understand that she will need some time for
adaptation, and during this time she will ahve to depend completely on her husband. But this
criteria in most cases are not as high as men think.
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Do most Russian women work?
Yes, they are. The thing is not in only financial
necessity and the wish to have financial independence, but also in the necessity to see fullfilled
their potential abilities. Russian women as the women in developed Western countries want to have
education and find the work that they will like. Some of them have their own business and profit
that is equal to men’s. All the same, almost any Russian woman dreams that her work to be a way
not to earn for life but an interesting and amusing hobby.
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Do Russian women prefer older husbands?
It is difficult to answer this question
unambiguously. AS a rule, a man in a Russian family is older than women for 2-8 years. There are
women who prefer men of the same age. There are more common goals and interests with such man.
Women-leaders prefer men younger than they as it is easy to be the head in such family. But there
are those women who are looking for a man much older than they. These women want to see near them
not only a man who can provide for a good financial level, who has achieved something in this life,
but also a wise ‘father’ support and leadership.
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Why are Russian women looking for a husband abroad?
One of the main reason
why russian women are looking for a man abroad is that Russian men do not want to take responsibility
and build family relationship. According to statistics, for each 5 Russian women who want to marry
there is only one man who wants to marry. Also the question of fatherhood is very acute in Russia.
Most men in Russia do not want to live with their children and to receive real money for upbringing
their children according to Russian laws is practically impossible, That’s why women, opposite the
popular opinion, look abroad not prosper life but possibility to create a normal family and grow
children.
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Do Russian women make good wives?
The notion “good wife” , I doubt, depends on the nationality.
It is more a queston of individual compatibility and adequacy of mutual demands. But, nevertheless,
Russian women have two big advantages in comparison with Western women. first, most Russian women put the
family higher than their business and career. they can value a man who can create stable family and really
be a father to his children. The second advantage is that Russian women are more oepn and ingenious in showing
their feelings and wishes, including sexual.
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Are the Russian women religious?
After 70 years of atheism it would be difficult to call
Russia a religious country. At first, all manifestations of believing in God were prosecuted, then, during
the time of Perestroyka, most of population went from one extreme to another. A wide number of sects and
congregations appeared- from pagans to mormons. Now Russian people are tried to impose Russian Orthodox
religion but not too successfully. But ignorance of religious rituals does not mean that they do not
believe in God. Many Russian women believe in God, though they do not attend church.
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What is the difference between Russian women and Western women?
If to go to this question from physiological point of view, there is not difference. But there are mental
distinctions. If a man who live in the West and who has a family, children and wife, has often higher status
of credibility and rating than single men, in Russia it is more related to women. That’s why Russian women
try to marry and retain their husbands almost at any cost. Russian women also do not try to compete with men
in businesslike characterand prove their independence. Visa versa, they look for a strong husband who could
support and protect them.
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Are the girls in your catalogue real?
Yes, all the girls on this site are actively trying to find a foreign partner for marriage or a long term relationship,
we only list the girls who are actively looking for a partner. We know many the girls personally.We guarantee that the girls with high level of credibility are real That’s
why we can offer men our service of Personal Advisor, the best service for people who want to find the most suitable match, who do
not want to waste their time and money on unsuitable girls. We work with girls closely and so we can always tell you
about each girl from St-Petersburg, We can recommend you some other girls most suitable for you, give you feedback on your communicating with girls, advise you on many aspects
concerning best way to communicate with girls,
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I have contacted several Russian women on your site, received answers. I liked some of them very much. What should I do next?
If you are serious about finding a partner abroad, you need to meet women you liked in person. You may go for a tour organized by marriage agencies.
Romantic tours to Russia are without doubt the best way to find your soulmate there. Meetings offer people real chance and opportunity to get to know
each other better. We offer exceptional service to prepare your visit to Russia. Our personalized service saves valuable time, helps to find the best
matches and greatly increases your success rate. You get all the advantages of Personal Advisor program for 10 or 40 days before your coming to
Russia: your personal advisor will guide you through all the process: you will be helped to create your profile and detailed description of the
girl of your Dream. Based on the information you provide and discussion with you, your advisor helps you to choose girls that will be the best match
for you, makes recommendations and personally introduces you to the girls you are interested in. We will take care of your every step, arranging
accommodation according to your wish (a hotel or an apartment in the center of St- Petersburg), organizing cultural program, meetings with marriage-minded girls,
obtaining a tourist visa. Ask for a price in the support chat or by email.
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Why do not you have any statistic information on the site,
how many times each girl was contacted?
I do not want to write to her if she has more than 5 men
contacing her. I do not want to have big competition.
We do not do it on purpose. First, it is not fair to pretty girls, they must
have a choice, and besides, we do
not know to how many other agencies the girl has registered and how
many letters she reseives there. By limiting her
we make her to apply to as many agencies as possible. Secondly, but
not less important, you do not know the men
who contacted her, she can be contacted by Turkish or other Asian
men, and all other men see that she was contacted by several
men and do not contact her, but she does not want a muslim as
her husband or too young or too old man. She has the right to
have her own wishes and preferances.
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Will it be difficult for a Russian woman to adapt to a
new style of life?
The ability to adaptation does not depend on nationality, but on the
peculiarities of the character. There are women for whom any even insignificant changes in
their life become serious stress. But they as a rule can’t make up finally their mind to leave
Russia, each time finding for this different excuses. For those, who does make up their mind,
adaptation is just a question of time. Of course, there are different things that help a woman
to adapt to live quicker- make her not stay at home but do something outside, go to different
courses (driving, language, some profession), invite friends home, go from time to time together
to dine.
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Do Russians know English or other foreign languages?
Russians do not need any other foreign languages in their
everyday life, although everyone learnt at least one foreign language at school. But Russians are
teachable and they can learn language very quickly.One third of the girls speak quite well, one-third speak
poorly but well enough not to rely on an interpreter and one third do not speak but all can read well. In the
girl’s profile the knowledge of English is rated from 1 to 5. Level 2 indicates that the girl can read and write. Level 3 indicates
that girl speaks poorly but well enough to communicate without an interpreter. Level 4 indicates that girl speaks rather well.
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Why are the Russian women so desirable?
The Russian women are down to earth, highly educated, family oriented
and not ruined by unreasonable expectations. Age
difference is not an issue with them. They are very
mature for their years and view older men as more
reliable, stable and secure. Russian women dress completely different from
western women and they look like girls from Hollywood.
Russian women prefer mini-skirts and make-up and don’t
like style of dressing of western women -jeans, T-shirts,
trainers. However, it’s not only the dressing style that
differ Russian women from Western ones, but their
personalities.
The main difference is that they are much more patient
and can tolerate things that Western women will never be
able to bear. Their motto is ‘The world doesn’t owe you a
living, you have to earn it’. The Russian women will
rarely leave a bad (really bad) husband because of the
fear to live on their own. They are more considerate and
dependable. On the other hand, they are partners, not
competitors. They are very supportive and sacrificing.
Russian women are well groomed, stylish and intelligent
(as are Russians in general)
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What is the most important to Russian women?
Women in Russia as it is everywhere are different.
That’s why it is meaningless to talk about what is the most important for them. But if to look only at the
women who apply to marriage agencies, their priority is quite understandable. These women want to create a
family and have children, they want a strong man near, a man with whom she felt secure. Unlike Westerm women,
Russian women who want to marry do not tend to compete with a man in strength, intellect and business like
qualities. They are from the beginning ready to give him priority in this and follow him.
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Do girls return to Russia after getting married to an
American because of homesickness?
Very, very rarely. Of
course, in the first few months they go through a period
of homesickness but they get past it. Arriving in a foreign country, a Russian woman has a lot
of problems with language. She has to be used to
different customs, traditions and rules. The first few
months she definitely won’t be working but staying at
home. She is not aware if her knowledge and skills are
worth anything. However, if she realizes that she can get
a good job, you may be surprised.
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Do girls run off after you bring them over to USA?
No! You are the sponsor
of her visa and she must marry
you and only you or return to her country before the end
of 90 days. If she runs off or marries someone else she
will be in violation of the visa and will permanently
lose status and be deported. The girls all understand
this and are not going to accept a visa invitation if
they don’t think the sponsor is a viable candidate for
marriage.
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Can I invite her to the U.S. without meeting her in
person in her home country first?
No. You must have photos taken together in her home
country to prove that you met or photoes taken in any other country.
The more different pictures together you have , the more easier for you it will be
to make the fiancee visa for your Russian bride. You can make the visa for your
Russian bride using the services of laywer, but of course it is much more expensive than by
any other way. You can buy the kit for about 100 dollars in many places, in the kit
you will have forms you need to fill in and recomendation how to fill them. Also, you
can use the person who specializes in making visas or fill the form yourself.
How long is the visa good for?
Three months. If the girl marries you she can stay,
otherwise she must return before the 3 months expire.
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If the girl has a child, does the child also need a visa?
No. The child is included on the girl’s visa.
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Can I marry the girl in Russia, not in USA and return back with the Russian wife?
Yes, but in this case she must apply as an immigrant
(spousal petition) K-3. The fact of the matter is that the K-1 process (fiancee visa) is subject to a
quota system, the K-3 process is not… and both are subject to the identical
time constraints for processing the filers paperwork. There are a couple of benefits
to the K-3 many are not aware of:
The K-1 requires the fiancee to wed within 90 days or return to her homeland, so this
requires the man to immediately file paperwork for her permanent residence documenting
the marriage. If she did not get an exemption travel stamp placed in her passport when
she entered the country she cannot travel outside the USA using her Russian passport
until she receives her permanent residence paperwork. This has nothing to do with a
Green Card. A Green Card requires the filing of a separate document as the Green Card
is what is required to work in the USA if one is not a American Citizen. Once the Fiancee
and American Citizen are married to obtain both permanent residence and a Green Card
there are different forms (each going through a different process independent of the
other) that must be filed and these request are not processed simultaneously, since they
are independent of one another.
A Green Card and Permanent Residence status are mistakenly used interchangeably but they
are entirely different in nature and scope. A person can have permanent residence status
from a K-1 or K-3 and still not have Green Card status. In most states in the USA in order
to obtain a drivers license for example a person must have a Social Security Card. If one
has documented permanent residence status this is a simple process as one simply sends a
copy of their status when they file a application for a Social Security number. If a person
does not have permanent residence status when requesting a drivers license they must go
through another documentation and verification process by the States Department Of
Motor Vehicles that they are in the USA legally and that process is state dependent.
The K-3 process does require the man to provide documentation that he is single or legally
divorced, go through the same filing and documentation process a Russian Citizen would
to be married within Russia. They must assure the wedding is conducted by a person who
is legally authorized and recognized by the Russian authorities and on file within the
area the wedding is held then the wedding documentation must be filed and on record within
the Russian legal document system so it can be verified later when the K-3 is submitted.
This is not as difficult as it might appear to be. A footnote to this is that a Priest
or a person representing a Church or Religion may not be legally authorized to perform
civil wedding ceremonies for this purpose. They could certainly marry in a church but
may need to also do a civil ceremony to assure all the documentation is legally submitted
and accepted into the Russian document system such as a court of records.
However the advantage of the K-3 for the American Citizen is that once the K-3 is processed
his spouse has automatic residence status upon arrival in the USA and he does not need to
then file any additional paperwork to the American INS. Nor does she require a exemption
authorization to travel stamp if she wants to leave the USA, she can travel immediately.
If he wants her to be able to work, then he would need to file for a Green Card work
permit after filing for a Social Security number using her permanent residence status
in the same process the K-1 requires for a Green Card. A non resident person who does
not enter the USA on a K-1 or K-3 wanting Green Card work authorization status goes
through a entirely different process since their Visa is neither a K-1 or K-3.
The processing of a K-3 is no harder, more expensive nor lengthy in nature, it is just
less popular because it is not understood by most Russian ladies nor American men.
The key factor is of course to assure the person conducting the wedding is recognized
by the Russian authorities, somewhat like a American Justice of the Peace is
authorized to do. Then copies of the wedding documentation needs to be notarized and
this should be done in both English and Russian.
As a footnote for the K-1 process is that the lady entering the USA on a K-1 visa
submitted by one specific man for her on her behalf can NOT marry a different American
man once in the USA. The American INS has upheld this decision on many occasions
since the INS considers it fraudulent. So if a Russian lady marries a different
man after arrival here on a K-1 she must return to her homeland and start the process
again but in this case there are legal issues between if she could use a K-1 or a K-3
because in the USA we have both Civil and Federal law. Civil law is at the state level
and since she married a American in a State she would be considered legally married to
him by that state. But the INS would still take the position she has no legal residence
status even though she is married to him.
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How long does it take to obtain K-1 (fiancee visa) or K-3 visas (spousal petition)
and how to do it?
There are K-1 and K-3 kits a man can find on the Internet for a fee of less than $100
to submit the documentation himself or he can pay someone to fill in the forms for him,
yet he will still need to provide all the documentation. It makes no difference if a
clerk who understands the forms does this or if one pays a expensive lawyer to do it,
they are still filling out the same forms, but it cost a lot more to have a lawyer do it.
When it comes to having a K-1 or K-3 expedited no attorney can do that for you, it is not
possible as they have no standing within the Federal INS service. Any individual can do
the same as any attorney can when it comes to trying to expedite the K-1 or K-3. The only
know way to really elevate a persons filing that the INS may react to is for the American
man to contact his local Congressman and Senator, then ask them to write a letter requesting
a status on the filing using the INS filing number provided when the Regional processing
center notified the man their filing was received and they have no additional questions
or problems with the filing.
The spouse of a permanent resident might obtain a visa more quickly than waiting for a
marriage-based visa if, for example, they:
have a potential employer in the United States
have parents or adult children who are U.S. citizens
would be willing to invest $500,000 or more in a U.S. business
have lived in the United States continuously since January 1, 1972
come from a country from which they can apply for the Diversity Visa (known as the visa lottery), or
fear political persecution in their home country. untry.
The kits one can purchase on the web really provide the forms, what one needs in terms
of documentation and how to fill in the forms. These are nothing more than a straight
forward explanation, along with the forms one can find on the INS website to do the same
thing or you can call them a laymans tool to fill in the forms.
A note on this is that there is No Universal Standard Processing Time For All States.
The INS has processing centers set up on a Regional Geographic Area and the man must
submit his request to the proper center that is responsible for his Geographic Area
within the states. That means people on the Eastern, Central and Western states use
different centers. Each center has it’s own processing time which is determined by
the number of filings pending to the number of people they have to process the request.
So on the East coast a center may process the paperwork in 3 to 4 months while in the
central USA they may take 6 months, and this is only the first phase of the processing process.
When a Regional Center processes your paperwork, once that is complete, it is then
forwarded to Washington DC, then in turn forwarded to the American Embassy in Moscow
or the Embassy your lady will use depending on where she resides in Russia, a CIS country
or other country. Once the paperwork is received by the Embassy then the clock of
time for processing starts all over again and it is dependent on the backlog, security
investigations, background checks and other requirements like interview scheduling
by that respective Embassy.
Once the Embassy interviews a lady then she will be told that her application is
approved or disapproved, then told to return home and she will be notified by mail
when she can then travel to the USA and they will not provide her a date when this
will be. This is entirely up to the Embassy and their backlog. In 2003 a new
requirement for this process has been implemented and that is all applicants must
be fingerprinted using an electronic (no ink) fingerprinting system which fingerprints
the Index Finger of each hand. This becomes a permanent part of their Visa, Passport and
Permanent Residence documentation.sidence documentation.
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Why do the women write in their profile that they want financially secure husbands? Does it mean that they are after your money?
In Russia not many peole have savings big enouph to live on for several months without work, especially to
live in Europe or USA. That’s why women who want to create a family with the foreigner and follow him to his
country understand that they will need for some time depend exclusively on him. That’s why they write that
they want for financially secure husbands. If course, there are those women who pursue only selfish ends
(profit) in any acquaintance. But fortunately, there are less and less of them looking for husbands in
marriage agencies in Russia with each year.
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How can I make a Green Card for my Russian bride?
First there is no such thing as a Green Card, it does not exist. The
term Green Card came from a small card that used to be issued
primarily to people from Mexico that allowed them to travel and/or work in the
USA beyond a 50 mile radius of the Mexican Border with the USA.
It was then expanded into a generic term to describe any documentation
in general that would allow a foreign national to live and work in the USA for
any reason by people who obtained one. So the term became a term that was used
extensively in the USA by the population especially those who held it.
But the Green Card itself is no longer in use, it was changed a long time ago
to a document(s) that may or may not be green in color.
The term Green Card should not be used in conjunction with the K-1, K-3, H-1B
or other Visas. But it could be used to say a person is authorized to work in
the USA legally, even though that authorization can be of any color. A person
holding a generically described Green Card may not be a permanent resident,
they could also be on a time limited work visa and their marital status to anyone
does not apply in anyway to a Green Card.
The other reason I break this out separately for you is that most men, nor the
ladies really understand that the man under the K-1 or K-3 must file a separate
request for the lady to allow for her to have legal work status and this is
independent of the forms one files to get her permanent residence status under
the K-1.This work status previously involved two government bodies the INS service
under the USA Treasury Department and the Department of Labor coupled with the Social
Security Department for a person to work legally in the USA. It was not by the INS
Department by itself.
For a permanent resident to have such status they must also obtain a Social
Security number and pay into the Social Security plan but a non permanent
resident does not need to have a social security number if they are here
legally, but they may be subject to USA income tax and taxes on their income
in their homeland also.
Shortly after the September 11th incident in the USA another Cabinet Level
Department was formed called Homeland Security and the INS Department along
with all Border Guards, check points and points of entry into the USA is now
controlled by the Homeland Security Department while the Department of Labor
and the Social Security Department remain as they were before.
People in your country may wonder why a Homeland Security Department was formed,
the answer is a simple one and that is because of our Constitution. Our Constitution
restricts our Federal Army, Navy, Air Force and Marines under the oversight of the
Pentagon to the protection of the continental USA, external to the Borders of the USA.
Federal troops cannot be used within the Borders of our country for any purpose unless
the President and Congress were to modify our Constitution. This was written into our
Constitution for the protection of our people from our own troops. In each state there
are National Guard troops which report to the Governor of that State and the Governor
can use them for protection within the state, but the Federal Government cannot use
Federal Troops within any state.
So until recently the people in the USA had no Army or forces to protect us internally
within our Borders, it was never needed in the past, therefore all problems with respect
to enforcement of our laws was left to civilian Police Forces within a City, County or State.
County or State.
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There are so many Russian women in your catalogue. How to choose the best suitable
woman for me among them?
The problem of choice is one of the most diffciult problem. To help with it,
on our site like in many other there is a system of advanced search which will allow you to find a girl
up to your taste. There is a unique possibility on our site to instantly evaluate your compatibility,
look at the future of your further relationship and even make search according to maximum psychological
compatibility.
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What is the secrets of getting responses?
The trick is not only to get responses, but to get enough
responses to give you plenty of choices.
How many letters must you write to find Your Only One?
There is no definite answer. One man can write 1 letter
and fall in love with the perfect mate, another guy can
send 50, and all his correspondence will inconceivably
stop after 2-3 letters. The result completely depends on
you and the efforts you put in.
If you are good-looking, you will get more responses than if you are
old and ugly, it is just natural. Don’t choose women who
are too young, and you will ensure that you’ll get some
responses.
Some men do get a 100% response; again, it depends highly
on you.
The first letter is the most important and you must
ensure that it will be special. There is no second chance
to make a first impression.
Your letter must be interesting to read. Good humor is
the best way to make reading fun but don’t be a clown.
Never make jokes about the girl’s appearance, her
English, etc. Better to laugh at yourself than to laugh
at her.
As you have on our site a good profile, you can just show
your interest to the girls, show you as interesting person
and all the details about you ahd your picture she will read in
your profile.
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I forgot my PASSWORD, what do i do?
Simple, click here for our automated password/login lookup form.
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